Anger: The Protector of Vulnerability

Anger is often misunderstood, but understanding its true nature can be a powerful step in dissolving the addiction to this volatile emotion. For many, anger has become a protector of vulnerability, serving as a defense mechanism against perceived threats or injustices. But what lies beneath this fiery emotion?

The Roots of Anger: Childhood Conditioning

Anger often takes root in childhood, where patterns, addictions, and conditioning are established. A child who perceives the people around them as unresponsive to their pleasure, pain, or emotional needs may receive the message that they are in competition with others to get their needs met. Without validation, a sense of belonging, or a safe emotional connection, the child may resort to anger as a means of self-preservation. The 'fight' response becomes a learned behavior, reinforced by the belief that any attention, even negative, is better than none at all.

For those who are quick to anger, showing vulnerability or even acknowledging it can feel impossible. This deep-seated fear stems from a sense of feeling unsafe. As a result, vulnerability, fear, perceived powerlessness, and pain are hidden behind the protective shield of anger.

Anger as a Form of Self-Loyalty

When anger acts as a protector, a subconscious link to self-loyalty develops. Anger becomes a way of enforcing boundaries in a world that seems indifferent to one’s needs, wants, or best interests. To not get angry can feel like an act of self-betrayal, rooted in deep trauma and wounding. The fear of experiencing that level of betrayal again can lead individuals to accept the negative consequences of their anger rather than risk feeling exposed.

Anger often arises spontaneously in response to a perceived threat or violation of boundaries. By expressing anger, individuals may feel a temporary sense of strength, empowerment, or control over a situation that leaves them feeling powerless or vulnerable. It can also signal to others that personal boundaries have been crossed.

For some, expressing anger is more socially acceptable or less stigmatized than acknowledging and expressing vulnerability directly. Anger, therefore, becomes a mask, hiding underlying feelings of fear, sadness, or hurt.

Healing Through Compassion

In a compassionate and supportive space, such as a clearing session with Sarah, you have the opportunity to explore and release deep-seated anger, rage, betrayal, pain, trauma, sadness, emotional neglect, feelings of rejection, and shame. This process allows you to connect with your inner child for deep healing, helping you learn healthier ways to demonstrate self-loyalty and establish personal boundaries.

Healing from the inside out involves embracing vulnerability, letting go of the need for anger as a protector, and stepping into a space of love, safety, and empowerment. Through this journey, you can transform the way you relate to yourself and others, finding a path of peace, connection, and true self-loyalty.

Blessings

Sarah